Five Quick Steps to Overcome Resistance to Asking for Help

Zelda Okia, MDUncategorizedLeave a Comment

In the previous post, I shared how it is difficult for many of us to ask for the weight loss help that we so desperately may need. We have this idea that we should be able to handle everything ourselves or pull ourselves up by our own bootstraps.

Well in my job as a forensic pathologist, I see too many lives lost by people who did not or would not ask for help and the devastation of the remaining friends and family members who wanted to help them, but did not know how.

So here are five steps for you if you are someone who wants to reach out, but either doesn’t know how or are afraid of doing so:

1) Hire a coach.

Yes, I am a coach and I have a coach. Hiring a coach was one of the most valuable things I ever did. Working with a coach has helped me to define who I am, what I want in my life, how to overcome many of the fears that hold me back, and how to create a life that I truly enjoy.

A coach helps you to tap into your own wisdom and create a life that is in alignment with your values. That sounds pretty cool to me and nothing to be afraid of.

2) Let it go.

Many of us are carrying around some heavy baggage from our past. And we know that this baggage is weighing us down and keeping us stuck. Sharing that burden allows you to lessen the load and begin to move forward. Why not allow yourself the freedom of completing your past and walking into a brighter future for yourself and those who follow after you.

3) Forgive.

Simply forgive. Start by forgiving yourself. My last post was about all of the “should’s” we impose upon ourselves. Forgive yourself for “should-ing” yourself. Then forgive yourself for “should-ing” others. Finally, you can begin to forgive others for “should-ing” on you.

4) Gratitude.

Be thankful for everything in your life….the good, the bad, and the ugly. You may have created some of the bad or the ugly. Some of it may have just found its way in. And some of it was going to make its way to you no matter what you did.  Was there or is there a lesson that you can gain from it?

5) Realize your value.

Many of you believe that if you ask for help that others will look down on you. Often you care so much about what others think that you can’t even live you own life. But remember that as someone is look down on you, someone else is looking up and thanking you for making it easier for them to live in their truth.

In summary, do not ever feel badly or belittle yourself for asking for help.

There are so many people available who are willing, able, qualified, and want to help you.

Simply reach out and prepare yourself for the blessings that await you. Have a wonderful new year!

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