Making Decisions Ahead of Time

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How many of you have made a decision and acted upon it, only to have your mind confront you about it later. You begin to question yourself, doubt the decision, and wonder if it was the right thing to do. This happened to me a few weeks ago. I took about five pairs of pants to a new tailor and … Read More

Are Negative Emotions Holding You Back

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Many people hide in the “comfort” of food, in an attempt to avoid or escape negative emotions. Maybe something bad happened at their job, somebody said something hurtful to them, or they feel somehow like they did not measure up.  The old internal critic begins to fill their minds with thoughts and they begin to punish themselves. Somehow, at least … Read More

Accepting the New You

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Are you in the process of re-labelling yourself? I am a Forensic Pathologist, but now I am also adding the label of life and weight loss coach. I have struggled with my own weight issues. I remember a sense of hopelessness and resignation navigating my way through the department stores as I went from the “junior” sections, to “women’s,” to … Read More

CHALLENGES

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I recently did an autopsy on a 26-year-old female, who overdosed on heroin.  The forensic investigator went to her parents house to make notification and was awestruck by the huge house where her parents lived.  They were obviously wealthy.  Yet their daughter was discovered in the dingy, filthy apartment of her equally drug addicted boyfriend.  According to the investigator, there … Read More

Who Do You Think You Are

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Why is it that as soon as we decide to make a commitment to live better, lose weight, step out of our comfort zone, or make major changes in our lives or businesses, then it seems as if obstacles begin to appear out of nowhere. Interruptions, problems, and issues seem to come out of the woodwork to derail us. Perhaps … Read More

A New You in the New Year

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What are you anticipating for the coming year? For many people, November is a time of busied frenzy as they and their businesses struggle to meet their year end goals, hit those fourth quarter milestones, and begin to reflect on accomplishments for the year. For others, year end signals a future focus. This is a time to consider ramping up … Read More

Hey Everybody! Meet Dr. Zelda

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This is my first video. I wanted to introduce myself to you as a medical examiner / forensic pathologist. You may see my name on a death certificate, an autopsy report, or I may speak to you on the phone. But now you can actually see what I look like.  I look forward to receiving feedback and comments and let … Read More

Anxiety Generation

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Are you passing your anxieties onto your child? Dr. Murray Bowen in his book Family Therapy in Clinical Practice describes the idea of triangles within families. When one spouse brings anxiety into the home it can be passed on to the other parent and ultimately the child. No parent intends to pass worries, distress, or nervousness on to their children. … Read More

Hiding in Plain Sight (II)

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Some drug paraphernalia is so mundane and commonplace, you would not imagine that it is used for drugs. Finding kitchen items in your child’s bedroom should raise a red flag in your mind and make you question why your steel wool pad or Chore boy for scrubbing dishes is in your child’s bedroom. Why are there pieces of aluminum foil … Read More