I like to compare past and current or future relationships to an estuary. Estuaries are transition zones between where freshwater from a river meets the saltwater of the sea. The mixing of seawater and freshwater releases high levels of nutrients into the water and sediment and makes estuaries some of the most productive natural habitats in the world. For many … Read More
Cultivate Space
One of the steps in a weight loss journey is learning how to allow and process emotions. You learn how to stay present with your feelings and urges. Often we use food as a means to buffer or escape negative emotions. But when you know how to process your feelings, you find that you no longer need to escape these … Read More
Designing a Creative Pull-out
What do you do when you are bored? I was drawn to medicine and becoming a doctor because I loved Biology. Medical school was a deeper dive into learning about the humans and their bodies. I was studying life and preparing to make a real difference with mine. Even as a pathology resident, I remember how I loved going through … Read More
Get off the Hamster Wheel
Life coaching helped me get off the hamster wheel. I know. Many people would not have seen my wheel. I had a house, a well-paying job, a loving family. I traveled. I was a well-respected member of my community. But I was on the wheel. Then I got off it. Once off the wheel, I realized space. Within the space … Read More
How to Use Urges and Cravings for Growth
During my coach training, I learned about a tool called the List of 100 Allowed Urges. I discussed it during one of my sessions of Path to Joy — A Habit Change Workshop. If you are interested in joining one of our remaining sessions, feel free to click here. When you have an urge or craving, you have a strong … Read More
Fall in Love with Your Life
I find it interesting how so many of us are prepared to move mountains to reach our goals? Like the weekend warriors who constantly prepare for a fight! Yet too often, buried in that pursuit, is a setup for failure. I instead enjoy and encourage doing something that you love. The warrior may love the battle, but at what cost? … Read More
Create a Game Worth Playing
Often when I face obstacles in my life, weight loss goals, projects at work, etc. I remember to ask myself: how can I make this into a fun game? How can I make this into my own game worth playing? In his book, The Game of Work, Charles Coonradt describes how so often, we complain about putting in extra effort … Read More
Begin Your Journey to Fulfillment
Hey There! I see you. You’ve got a lot going on. Between holding down a job, raising your family, keeping everything together during the COVID pandemic, I’m guessing that time for yourself is pretty non-existent. Yet, your to-do list keeps growing day after day. If you are like many of my clients, you want a weight loss program that is … Read More
Reach Out to the Life that Awaits You
Last year, I transitioned from death into life. It always gets a chuckle. When people hear that, they think I will share some harrowing near-death experience. Not so dramatic for them. But nevertheless dramatic to me. I left my secure, well-paid, pensioned, government job as a forensic pathologist. To become… a life coach. Why? What was I was looking for? … Read More
When It is Finally Yours
A poem about Frederick Douglass by Robert Hayden starts with the line: “When it is finally ours…” The poem is about freedom and liberty. But also about opportunity, flexibility, privilege, and abandon. What other words describe the freedom that you seek? What does freedom even mean to you? Hayden’s poem describes liberty as a beautiful, terrible, and needful thing. It … Read More